Is it okay for men to weep? Yes, not only did Jacob and other men in the Bible, but our Lord Jesus wept. It is Godly to weep after others and our love for them. There is a way for husbands and wives to kiss that is not the same as kissing others. A holy kiss amongst brothers and sisters in Christ is not the same as a romantic kiss between a man and woman who are married to each other. Jacob arrives and pitches in and works hard for Laban, without pay for the first month. Our countenance is much more important than our beauty. Beauty is fleeting but character will last forever. The will of God for our lives is better than anything that we could design. Having multiple spouses is not a pattern that we should follow. God designed marriage to be between one man and one woman. When we feel like we have been mistreated, God will use everything for the good of His people and the glory of His name.